5 Tips for Good Engagement Gift Giving

If you’ve been following along in the life of Modern Jewish Wedding you may have heard the news we’ve had several engagements in the family.  Which means, I’ve been shopping and sadly not so successfully.  I’ve been struggling to find just the right engagement presents for my niece, nephew and lots of friends’ children.  You know what they say, “Those who can’t do, teach.”

Modern Jewish Wedding’s Guide to Good Engagement Gifts

Wedding Essentials

The newly engaged couple will be having a wedding.  It might be a small intimate affair, a destination wedding or even a luxury hotel ballroom but, there are a few items every Modern Jewish Wedding couple will need for under the chuppah like a kiddish cup and a glass to stomp.  Add to the fun with a Mazel Tov Stone.  You could get a pen for everyone to use to sign the guest book (you know one of those white feathery numbers?).  How about a knife to help use during the wedding cake cutting or champagne flutes for the toast?

cutting the cake_modern jewish wedding

Photo by Mercedes Morgan Photography

Caveat, no hurt feelings allowed if your gift doesn’t make it to the wedding or reception.  Remember, it’s the thought that counts.

Date Night Luxuries

The engagement time is a little bit like a roller coaster ride.  Anticipation filled with a lot of excitement and just enough dread to create laughs and screams along the way.  Why not help the couple have a little fun?  Give an engagement present that encourages some romance.  A staycation night at a nearby hotel, tickets to a concert, theater or movie.  Or put together a basket filled with all the goodies needed to have an outing just for two.  Don’t forget the wine!

Woman lying on her girlfriend’s knees during picnic, looking at camera and smiling

Something Monogrammed

Cuff links, flasks or flash drives make stylish and personalized engagement gifts for the couple.  Want to get the couple a gift that says romantic and less bro-mance?  How about monogrammed robes or nightshirts?  You can get one for each of them and one for you too.  My personal favorite monogrammed gift, a hangar for the wedding dress.  That way you know your BFF won’t miss out on getting a picture of her dress hanging in the window with perfect back lighting.

monogrammed engagement gifts

Photos from left to right by Bradly Images & Maria Angela Photography


Why not give the couple something that bridges the time from engagement to married?  A subscription can start now and continue arriving once a month or quarter even after the couple is married.  Like a quarterly subscription to a wine or beer club. Need help?  Buzzfeed has the 20 Gift Boxes We All Need Right Now.  And just like that, I’m shopping as much for me as for engagement presents for others!  Our latest find isn’t on their list (but, it’s on our wish list)~the Hello Mazel Gift Box, which arrives quarterly and delivers Jew-y goodness in a box.

hello mazel Passover gift box

Gift Cards

When is doubt gift cards are always the right size, shape and will be used on something you know the couple needs.  Getting married is expensive.  It leads to expenses you never even thought of, like the extra personal training sessions you want to buff up for all those pictures.  Gift cards will definitely be used and will most definitely be appreciated.


Bonus Idea:  Planner Guide

Why not get your newly engaged friend no one can live without while planning a wedding?  The Wedding Planning Guide is THE perfect gift.  Put together a lovely basket with a bottle of wine, two glasses and your favorite wedding planner.  You will have the perfect evening with your best friend making wedding plans, pinning ideas and searching for the perfect hashtag on Instagram.  Can’t decide which planner to get?  Be one of the first to order The Modern Jewish Wedding Planner coming soon.  Stay Tuned for all the deets.  In the meantime, you can download all three editions of the magazine right here.

Do you have an engagement present idea we didn’t include?  Let us know!  Maybe we’ll share it in a future article.

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