Sean is a successful musician in the Twin Cities, and he also happens to run Trivia Mafia, a local bar trivia company. Rachel & her friend Jenna decided to start doing bar trivia as a way to get out of the house, and Sean was the host at Sunday night trivia at the 331 Club in NE Minneapolis. They met and gradually started talking more and more, and then finally one day (10 months after I started attending trivia) he asked for her number. She said, “I was so oblivious, I remember thinking ‘I wonder what he wants that for?!””
They dated for two years before they got engaged. One Sunday morning in October, Sean suggested they go out to Lake of the Isles and take a look at a boat race. He played it so cool Rachel didn’t suspect anything, so went out in a hoodie and without makeup. Turns out there was no boat race; it was just an excuse to get Rachel to go to that spot. “Then boom, I turn around and he’s down on one knee! He really managed to surprise me, which is no easy feat,” she said.
Rachel shared lots of the details of her wedding to Sean. For her dress, she didn’t want to feel pressured to look like what was trendy or expected. She went to Andrea’s Vintage after finding it online, and the staff there helped to create and execute a vision.
For the bridesmaids, she was 100% committed to asking them to wear something they could wear again. “I figured, a Jcrew sweater will last forever and is always in style, and my friend found a pin on Pinterest that paired a cable knit sweater with a full tulle skirt. We both loved the look. I thought the navy blue color would look appropriate for fall, not clash with anything else, and be timeless,” she said.
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Rachel’s favorite part of the day? “Besides the actual ceremony, I really loved when we signed the Ketubah. We were all gathered together, just close friends and family, to see us sign the contract and for our parents to say some kind words. It was really special.”
Rachel’s advice to other Modern Jewish Brides, “Have a real conversation with your spouse-to-be about how you envision your wedding day. Figure out what things are truly important to you and need the most brain space, and focus your energies on those. Ask the groom what he thinks about things, figure out what’s important to him and let him own at least one thing about the day. Trust his judgement, because the more involved he is, the happier you both will be. I remember reading online “The wedding should not be a surprise party for the groom.” Don’t assume that he doesn’t care! He’s marrying you; he’s obviously got good taste!”
They had several DIY projects. For the centerpieces, they gathered books & organized them according to theme (business, fairy tales, etc), took the Dewey Decimal number related to each of those themes and the table numbers.
For the guest book, they bought a large sketch book and printed out pictures from their engagement session, left out sharpies and encouraged people to write a message or caption by the photos.
Finally, she said, “Our dessert table wasn’t exactly DIY, but sort of. Rather, we figured out our favorite desserts from around town (Turtle Cake from Caffe Latte, carrot cake from Barbette), prepaid for them, and asked friends to pick them up the day of and bring them to the reception.”