I’m not going to lie. The past two weeks have been crappy. Mirah had to go to the emergency room after falling off a bounce house at a birthday party. My father wound up in the ER the next day with stomach issues, I was rear ended in a car accident and worst of all two families in my “universe” suffered tremendous losses of life. My energy has been low and The Modern Jewish Wedding and The Modern Jewish Mitzvah have suffered. I’m sorry.
But, it is TGIF! And, I really do mean, “Thank GOD it is Friday!” It is a beautiful spring day outside my office window, this post will get published and I will silently praise the universe that the sun is setting. It is time when I am “unplugged” from FB, Twitter, my email and for a few hours even my cell phone and text messages. It is special. A holiday!
The most obvious answer is weddings are not permitted on Shabbat. Even a wedding is not allowed to interfere with the Joy we are allowed to experience once a week. That’s huge! In Judaism, weddings must occur and take precedence over death and mourning. But, not Shabbat. But, that doesn’t mean you have to exclude the holiday (and its lesson of sacred time and space) from your weekend.
1. Light Shabbat Candles at the Rehearsal Dinner.
2. Serve Challah & Say Motzi before you eat. Who can argue with good home made bread?
3. Drink Wine.
4. Have an opportunity to give tzedakah with this special wedding tzedakah box.
5. Do Havdallah to end Shabbat before your Saturday wedding.
6. Drink Wine. Did we mention how important wine to mark moments of celebration in Judaism?
7. Get Married on a Sunday. Sunday weddings can be just as elegant! Ask Kate Middleton.
How might you include Shabbat in your Modern Jewish Wedding?