My anniversary marks the unofficial launch of The Modern Jewish Wedding. The official launch came a few months later. And, as Mr. MJW and I prepare for our 6th wedding anniversary this Sunday I wanted to take a moment to thank him for his ever enduring support of me and this little blog and book project by sharing my all time favorite Modern Jewish Wedding–my own!
I’d like to think every detail counts as a MJW detail; since, I consider any detail with the couple’s personality a MJW detail. But, I’ll share just a few of the ones you might consider MJW details too.
Our invitation suite, included a nod to Mr. MJW’s chosen major in math. It may have been the only detail which screamed it was about him–and since it was the envelope liner I really hope at least one person noticed? Our stamps created on Zazzle.com were a picture we took together at his son’s Bar Mitzvah, which was the first time I met his family. I think it was then he knew I was “the one.”
My bridal bouquet was inspired by Gail Simmons (one of my many Modern Jewish Women girl crushes). She included quince. I went for an artichoke heart. (I think my bouquet weighed like 5 lbs.) For my step-daughter to be (AKA the flower girl) we did a purse made out of moss with matching flowers.
Mr. MJW and I both had a glass to break. I broke mine during the Ketubah signing and bedeken ceremony. This part of our wedding day was very intimate. We just asked our immediate families and our witnesses. Our rabbi who is an old family friend had our living parents hand us our signed Ketubah as a visual way of passing down our Jewish heritage.
I did the Hakafah around Mr. MJW and his two children. Symbolizing to all of us that we were creating an entirely new family unit. We then invited our two nieces and nephew under the chuppah with us to lead all of our guests (who each had a candle and spices) to do Havdallah. Since we didn’t have any bridal party, apart from the two kids, we invited seven pairs of friends and family to do our Sheva Brachot (Seven Blessings) in both Hebrew and English. I’m told we did a reform wording of them–but, I honestly don’t remember.
A few of the Modern Jewish Wedding details about the reception. We got married on Thanksgiving weekend and used the theme of Thanksgiving everywhere. During the reception, we had a bountiful popcorn bar, that included savory flavors, a smashed potato bar and our signature cocktail. Upon entering the ballroom our guests found their escort cards as small miniature pumpkins. (Also, a nod to my Halloween birthday and Pumpkin nick name as a child. I told you the only detail about Mr. MJW was our envelope liner.)
The centerpieces were also a nod to the Thanksgiving. Each of the table “numbers” were balloons that had flown in the Macy’s Thanksgiving day Parade. Our dinner was served family style and had a lot of traditional Thanksgiving foods. Although, I don’t remember what we served now. I remember our tasting was lots of fun.
Instead of a cake we served 6 different kinds of miniature pies. That was so popular we each just got to taste one flavor–because they were all gone before we got there. And, just in case people didn’t have enough pie to eat we did our best to duplicate my favorite Amy Atlas (another girl crush) dessert display ever–her Thanksgiving original.
Our final Modern Jewish touch was our exit. At the end of the reception, we raised the lights and friends did the seven blessings for us again and each added their own personal blessing. Then we were pelted with candies and marshmallows as we exited the ballroom.
P.S. A few MJW details we didn’t include but should have: An engagement session, getting ready pictures a first look and a videographer. Once its over all you have left are the pictures and the memories. You can read more in my column, “Do as I say…”
Vendor Resources: Planner: Amy Mader//Floral: Wild Poppy//Venue & Catering: JW Marriott San Antonio//Invitations: Favors You Keep//Decor & Rentals: Premiere Events & Marquis Event Group//Dress: Nordstrom Bridal Suite//Ketubah: Ketubah.com//Desserts: Kelly’s Baking Co.//Photographer: Stella Allesi